- Escape or violence:

We must know that actions such as escape or surrender, which emanate from the human, do not pass without leaving a deep physical and psychological harm that can reach the limit of the state of depression. As for the violent reaction, it weakens the individual's relationship with the surroundings and creates a state of mistrust.
In terms of the most primitive human reactions, that is, when intelligence and logic are absent, we as humans never differ from the animal. There is also no big difference between us and the little child, who in order to get what he wants, knows only the use of tears and anger. What does a young child do when he ignores his tears and anger and is not taken into account? Or if he feels that his needs and wishes are not met? He seeks to get what he wants in a more twisting way, resorting either to trickery or to seduction. Thus, another method is used by man to live his relationship with people, namely exploitation.


- Benefits and disadvantages of exploitation:

Whether the individual is tempted by the path of lying (in all its forms under which it can be concealed), the benefits of exploitation are the ability to obtain what one wants without asking for it, without risking refusal to meet his request, or risk losing His power and control over others.


When the human reaches the maximum extent of exploitation, and in its pathological form, there is a state of "deviation". Although exploitation is less disturbing than other ways in which a person can get what he wants, where he is exploited quietly and without a fuss, the worst is that he considers disrespect for the other. On the other hand, the person who is exploiting finds himself forced to swallow the bitterness that he gives to others, regardless of his true feelings towards them and regardless of his worth and pride in himself.


There is no doubt that resorting to this method of exploitation to achieve the owner of profits in the near term, and this is certainly the reason for the widespread use among people, but this method in the long run, the exploiter, broken Guinness, very much to reach the same result that reaches To the violent person or who chose the violence, and even more so, as it is on the other exploits the weight of psychological pressure and the fear of being discovered, or that others return to him twice, because of the lack of respect for them, and cheating and deceiving them by giving them a picture is not his image truth . Apart from our instinctive primitive reactions or those that we have learned pedagogically, there are other ways we can follow, so that they are useful to us and others.


- Advantages to impose your personality:


To be yourself in the face of circumstances and other disturbing and sometimes provocative behaviors, you must summon a number of distinctly human qualities: conscience, reason, the ability to express what we feel, solidarity with the other, and self-assertion to arm yourself with solid confidence, And in life.
And self-confidence does not mean that you are considered to be better than others. On the contrary, self-confidence is to acknowledge your shortcomings, without thinking for a moment that these deficiencies may diminish your value, make you loved, or reduce your chances of success. Only when you give yourself confidence can you give others confidence, because our relationship to others is the mirror of our relationship. For example, a good manager or good president is the one who has enough self-confidence to show himself to others as they are and their flaws if necessary without shame or fear.



- Develop your social intelligence and relationships:


You may wonder what results you will reach by this? They are the same results as those of a group or family whose members have a real social intelligence, people who have the ability to be harmonious with themselves, and who have the will to live in harmony with those around them, despite all the obstacles that never surface In any work done by man. You will get the sympathy and participation of people, and the desire to move forward and you will gain that will reduce many doubts and fraud that may bother you, and will provide your energy and more psychological comfort for you and others.
Be faithful to your self, do not let it down, impose it, although in many situations it may seem an overly ambitious challenge. Do not doubt for a moment that this method of dealing is the most beneficial and less harmful, and follow them to ensure you success in your relationships and emotional relationships with your friends and family, as you will motivate others and affect them and it will be comfortable and transparent to make you happy and make them happy too.


Dr.sanaa thabit